So you’ve been hurt. Welcome to humanity. So you’ve been hurt in a way that you can’t seem to move past, in a way that lingers and hovers over you like a dark cloud. Perhaps it was a marriage that went south, a friend that betrayed you, a church that hurt you. Maybe it was a betrayal by someone in authority, abuse by someone who should have protected you. The hurt can be as recent as last week and as ancient as your early childhood. Hurt is hurt, and it doesn’t go away on it’s own. What do you do now? You know you need to forgive, but you just can’t seem to get there. Saying the words doesn’t seem to be enough. If it was as easy as saying, “I forgive you,” you would have moved on years ago. But you can’t seem to let go of the anger and the hurt. What’s worse, you know it’s beginning to destroy you from the inside out, your hurt beginning to spill over and hurt those you love.
You’ve listened to sermons on forgiveness. You know what the Bible says, you’ve tried to forgive but you can’t forget. What’s the solution? Is it truly possible to find freedom from the pain of hurt, anger and bitterness or is this your lot in life? How can you not just superficially, but truly forgive someone? Forgiveness isn’t easy, but it is possible. Here are three ways to begin to truly forgive someone and let go of the pain and bitterness that is destroying you on the inside.